Labor Truth

Did you know only about 15% of women’s water breaks before labor?!?!

The idea of my water not breaking completely freaks me out! I had it easy with Ryder. I was at home watching tv, got a weird feeling, and my water broke. I cleaned up the house a little, my husband took a shower and we headed to the hospital. It was smooth sailing from there. (With the help of the epidural of course)

I’m praying my water breaks with Camden. Why? Because it’s like a non painful warning system from your body that it’s almost time! I prefer that to having contractions. The idea of painful cramping is just not my cup of tea. I’ve been in enough pain and discomfort as it is, I prefer not to add on any more!

I think the fact that I’m a planner makes labor more stressful for me. I don’t like the idea of not knowing when something will happen. I HATE surprises. I like to have things organized down to the minute. With labor it’s completely out of my hands. My body is going to do whatever it wants. I’m not a fan of that plan!

I’m down to 6 days remaining till D-day. I’m just hoping my body gives me some sort of non painful warning like it did last time.

Rest when you’re dead….

Tired….So tired….I’m woken up every morning at 3am, 4am and 5am to the dogs pacing. The clicking of their nails on the hard wood is the most annoying noise in the world. I swear they do it just to annoy me some days. 🐕

Then at 5:45am Ryder decides he wants to get up. I have a full day of chasing a toddler around till 9pm. I never in my life would have guessed how exhausting it is chasing around a small human and picking up the tornado like destruction they leave behind. It seriously is a lot of bending over and lifting. 👶🏻

I’m in bed at 10:30pm only to wake up at 3am by the dogs again. It’s a never ending cycle. Combine that with pregnancy aches and pains and I am one miserable human. I keep praying for one morning to just sleep in till at least 7am and not be woken by the dogs, pregnancy pains or Ryder. But then I realize that’s wishful thinking. So I keep telling myself when I’m dead I’ll finally get to rest. 😂

You’re still pregnant?

The comment I hear almost daily now is…..”You’re still pregnant?” Yup I am. Thanks for pointing it out. It’s not like the mirror, aching body or giant belly don’t remind me each day!! 😂

Technically I’m not even to 40 weeks yet. So I’m actually on time. I guess my belly is starting to look big so people think I’m past due or due today. I’m also pretty short so a big belly looks even bigger on me. 🤷🏼‍♀️

The “you’re still pregnant?” question doesn’t exactly make me feel great. I’m pretty uncomfortable as it is, so I prefer not to have random people tell me in other words that I look huge or miserable. Doesn’t help the situation much. I tend to just laugh and say “yup still pregnant but he’s welcome to come any time now!” I figure it’s better to make light of the situation than let a stranger know I’m miserable and then pointing out my size doesn’t help. 😂

D-Day hair washing

We are getting close to D-day! That means my hair washing schedule has changed. I’m typically a once a week hair washer. I live for dry shampoo. That’s why my hair is always so soft and shiny. However now that baby time is close, I’m washing my hair every other day. I fear going a week without washing my hair, then the day I go to wash it I end up going into labor and don’t get the chance. Lord knows I’ll be too tired to wash it the days after having Camden. So I’m not taking any chances of being the smelly haired lady. My hair will have to suffer through the frequent washes for the next few days till he’s here! 🧼

Traveling On Hold

Well, my traveling days are over…..for a few months. I’m far enough along that it’s recommended I not travel anywhere far unless I’m prepared to possibly deliver somewhere unplanned! ❌

I’m a planner and I like comfort so I fully expect to deliver at my hospital of choice. I haven’t gone more than 30 minutes from my house just to be safe! Im probably being a little dramatic but better safe than sorry! 😂

We have a weekend vacation planned in October that I’m looking forward to. And yes, we will be taking little Camden with us! Ryder however will stay home with Gramma. There’s not enough things for a toddler to do there so he’d have more fun with his Gramma! Plus I literally fear taking a 2+ hour plane ride with a 3 month old and a 2 year old at the same time! Props to those moms that have done it! I have zero faith in myself and my kids to make it through the plane ride without multiple breakdowns and everyone on the plane hating us!🤷🏼‍♀️

Hospital Item Must Haves

When I went to the hospital to have Ryder I remember the nurse asking where my bags were. I lifted up my little black bag and said right here! She laughed and said “that’s it?” She then apologized for laughing and explained she was just shocked because most women come in with a giant roller bag as if they are moving in. 🧳

Her comment made me laugh too. I understand wanting to be comfortable but do you really NEED that many items? Here’s what I packed in my bag last time and have done the same for this second baby:

🔹Outfit to go home in

🔹Baby’s going home outfit

🔹Underwear (3 pairs to be safe)

🔹Nursing bra

🔹Shoes to go home in (ones that fit swollen feet)

🔹Toothbrush & Toothpaste

🔹Face Wash

🔹Face Wipes

🔹Face Lotion

🔹Chapstick

🔹Mascara

🔹Face Powder

🔹Hair Brush & Hair ties

🔹Phone Charger

🔹Book

🔹Nurses Treats

Outside of these items I couldn’t find anything else I really needed. The hospital provided us with diapers and wipes while we were there and even gave us some to go home with.

I’m not a huge makeup wearer so I felt it unnecessary to bring tons of makeup or toiletry items.

I know some people like to bring their own hospital robe but I was just fine in the one the hospital gave me. I guess if you want to look cute for pictures then go for it.

The hospital had a tv, but I found it nice to have a book as something different. There were times where I just wanted quiet and a book was perfect to have.

My husband complained about being freezing in the hospital the entire time. I felt fine, but then again I still had so much blood pumping through me it probably kept me warm. If you naturally get cold easily you can bring your own blanket, but the hospital will provide extras if needed.

One item I am bringing this time that I didn’t bring last time is treats for the nurses. The nurses at the hospital were so kind to me the first time. They made me feel so comfortable and kept everything light. I remember laughing quite a few times which I didn’t expect. So as a little thank you for taking care of us, I put together a snack basket to put at the nurses station for them. 🍬

Everyone is different. I know there’s tons of items that people feel they absolutely need that I didn’t. I’m more of a simple person and just brought what I needed to be comfortable. I didn’t want to have to drag a bunch in and drag it all back out. But again, to each their own! Do what works for you!

Baby 1 meeting baby 2

Everyone keeps asking me how I think Ryder is going to handle having a new baby around. I literally have no idea. And all the questions have started making me feel a little guilty. That sounds horrible when I say it out loud. But in all honesty I’m a little nervous. I don’t want him feeling attention deprived or think I love him any less. I’m having a hard time with that right now. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I know the positive patty’s of the world are going to tell me he will be just fine and everything will turn out great. Yeah yeah, leave me alone. I know everything will be just fine, but that doesn’t mean my mom guilt just goes away or lessons any right now. 😢

I know it may take a few weeks and he will eventually adjust to the change and realize I’m still here and still love him as much as I ever have. It just tears at my heart that for any amount of time he would be upset or sad. He’s the happiest kid ever so it breaks my heart to see him upset. 💙

Couvade Syndrome

I couldn’t stop laughing when I first heard about Couvade Syndrome. Never heard of it? It’s a condition in which pregnant women’s partners think they’re experiencing pregnancy like symptoms! Sounds ridiculous but it’s real!

Partners can actually take on feelings of leg cramps, abdominal pain and even cravings! I literally laugh every time I think about it. Not because I’m making fun of the people this happens to. Just because I find it crazy what the human body can do!

This hasn’t happened to my husband, thank god! When he gets a cold it’s like having a sick helpless child in the house. I couldn’t imagine him with Couvade syndrome!! 😂

Organizing for baby #2

Getting organized for baby #2 has been pretty easy. The fact that our kids will be so close in age helps because most of the baby clothes, toys, etc that we got for Ryder we still have and are in good condition. There are a few additional items we needed or things that needed replacing from wear and tear.

In order to keep an organized list of what we needed for the new baby, I actually created a private baby registry. Every month I buy things off my registry. Sort of like checking things off a list. For Christmas or my birthday when my mother asked what I wanted, I would send her a link to items on the registry! Funny how things have changed. I used to ask for items for myself for my birthday or Christmas. Now I ask for things for my kids, that make my life easier! 😂

I’ve had people ask if I’m going to have a baby shower for this second baby. My answer is no. I’m a traditional person. So I think it’s only proper to have a baby shower for your first child. I find it weird when people have baby showers for their other children. A “sprinkle” I totally get. Those are small and typically you are just given diapers. Not to mention it’s an excuse for a party! But a full on baby shower…..no. ❌

I definitely feel more prepared for this second baby. Having kept all of Ryder’s baby things and making my lists keeps me organized and free of stress. The fact that we aren’t moving houses at the same time we are bringing the new baby home is definitely making it easier this time around. Lesson learned. 😂

Over it….

I used to love going to the gym. It was my place away from everything. Now I sort of dread it. I literally pray that I’ll just make it through a short workout each time. The pregnancy struggle is getting real!💪🏻

I’m in the last few weeks of pregnancy and everything is getting hard! Putting my shoes and socks on is a battle. Not only can I barely see my feet but I can barely reach my feet to get shoes and socks on! I also get winded just walking around. I had to sit down and breathe after just doing laundry! I’m constantly tired and want to lay down but can’t because I have a toddler running around like crazy. I’m always hungry but I’m running out of belly room so I have to eat tiny meals all the time which is exhausting in itself. I barely sleep at night because of the leg aches, back ache, and overall discomfort. Don’t get me started on the constant need to pee. I’m literally on the verge of going to buy adult diapers! 🤦🏼‍♀️

On a positive note, I have no major swelling. My feet and hands look the same as they always have. I had a little swelling with Ryder that caused me some discomfort but none this time around! My hair and nails also look great. My hair struggled at the beginning of my pregnancy but it’s made a turn for the better! It’s looking shiny, healthy and growing long fast!

Needless to say, these last 6 weeks will feel like they take the longest. Maybe Cam will be like Ryder and get here a little early. In all honestly I wouldn’t mind! I’m ready! Literally! 🤷🏼‍♀️