I’m totally going to sound like an ungrateful complainer, and I’m ok with that. Lol so here goes………Why do some women feel the need to give a stranger mom/baby advice? I thought I left my “please give me advice” sign at home when I went out to run errands. Yes I’m a new mom and I guess I must really look like it at times, but it’s a bit inappropriate to try to give me advice without asking. Especially when I don’t know you. I understand people are trying to be helpful, but make sure your information is correct and factual before you pass it on. It takes all my strength and energy not to smart off when someone gives me advice I know is incorrect. Also, what works for your kid won’t always work for other people’s kids.
I am so appreciative of friends who give me advice when I go running to them. My friend Andrea is fantastic about this. Never once has she pushed advice on me. Instead she waits for me to ask. And boy do I ever. The time I was going to travel on a plane with Ryder for the first time I called her in a crazy Mom panic. I took all of her advice to heart and wrote down everything she said so I wouldn’t forget anything. This kind of advice I appreciate. Because I asked!! I’m not afraid to ask if I don’t know! But please strangers, don’t walk up to me (or any mom you don’t know) and try to give me advice on my child. I prefer to figure it out on my own. It’s a learning process. If I need to know badly enough I’ll ask.
Motherhood changes us in more ways than we may notice. I think it’s softened me a bit. I was a gymnast and was always told I was robotic with my emotions and feelings. Having Ryder I think I show my emotions a little more. I make sure to always tell him I love him and I’m proud of him because I never really had much of that growing up. People were always telling me I could do better or I needed to be better. It didn’t matter how many competitions I placed in, how many awards I got or how many A’s I made, I was always told I could do better. I told myself when I had Ryder I would always tell him I was proud of him no matter what. And that’s what I’ve done. Every time he does something new or attempts anything I tell him I’m proud of him. During the day I tell him multiple times that I love him. I want him to always know how loved he is. It’s one thing to show it, but kids really do need to hear it. I think parents forget sometimes how important words are to a child especially in the early stages. Never forget to say I love you 💙
Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Bring a medium pot with rice and 1 cup of water to boil. Reduce to simmer, cover and cook 18-20 minutes.
Slice green onions, mince garlic and remove strings from snap peas (if necessary).
I’m a mixing bowl combine pork, soy sauce, half the green onions, rice flour, ginger, half the sesame oil and a pinch of pepper. Mix and roll into 8 golfball sized meatballs. Heat 1 tbsp of olive oil in a non stick pan. Add meatballs and cook until browned on all sides (2-3 minutes). Transfer meatballs to a baking sheet. Place in oven and cook 8-10 minutes.
Wipe pan clean, add 1tbsp of olive oil and remaining sesame oil. Add garlic and cook 1 minute. Add snap peas, green onions, red pepper flakes, and a pinch of salt. Stir occasionally until tender (4-5 minutes).
Plate dish and serve ponzu sauce on the side for dipping. Enjoy!!
When I first got pregnant with ryder I was so worried how the dogs would take to him. People kept telling me pit bulls are not good to have around kids. Both dogs are older and pretty set in their ways. My dog Sadie is very protective of me. She follows me everywhere. When I first brought Ryder home Sadie would growl and pace a lot. I decided to take an approach where I made sure to only pet her when I was holding ryder or he was close to me. When I didn’t have him I pretended she wasn’t there. I wanted her to know that he was ok. So when he was close she got attention. After about 2 weeks she started to relax. By the time he was 1 month old she would actually lay next to me when I held him. As he got older and I would lay him on the floor to play or do tummy time, she would come over and lick him or just lay and watch him. Now that he’s 8 months old she follows him everywhere! She has to know where he is all the time. She gives him kisses all the time, lays her head on him and watches him play. It’s the most beautiful thing to see.
Don’t ever listen to anyone when they say you can’t teach a dog to love and be ok with a baby. Like people, every dog is different. Sadie is a pit bull lab mix. When I tell people she’s part pit they freak out and can’t believe I let her around ryder. She’s a dog! Forget what type and ignore the stereotypes. She’s always been a sweet loving dog to me so I knew I could get her to love ryder too. Despite the bad rap they get, pit bulls can be the most loving and kind dogs if they are brought up correctly!
Thanks for joining me! I’m on this new “Ryde” called motherhood. This blog will focus on my ups and downs as I navigate my way with a new baby. It will also include my two passions: food and fitness. Hope you enjoy! Follow me on Instagram @ryde_with_me
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton